Smile. This is the ever first advice that anybody could tell if you ask how to make friends with people. It is quite true. As easy as a simple smile to anyone who meets your eyes, will lift a spirit to show confidence to you. But in some cases, he might won't smile back because he's in doubt that the smile isn't for him but probably for a person behind him. A smile is just an introduction of showing that you are approachable. Are you really friendly? Being friendly is not seen if you always frown and just smile if someone looks at you. So, my advice, carry a blooming face wherever you go. Although, it's not very easy to keep on blooming if you are carrying heavy problems and frets, but just try to lessen the cross of your eyebrows and the weight of your cheeks, so people will not see you pitiful or strict, or anything negative they could think about you. Well, it's not really good for them to judge you but somehow, you have to show that no matter how big your frets are, you still can conquer those and that, they will see you brave and jolly. Build the confidence in you. Think positive. Your aim is to gain good friends so start making friends with yourself. Don't ever always frown or show that you are weak. Blink your eyes and carry up your cute cheeks and then just take a deep breath. Bloom. Carry your shoulders and walk freely. Just go along and whoever meets you, smile. You would know if they want your smile because they stare at you. You might probably meet friendly faces, or judgmental ones but ignore them, and instead, smile back to them.
If someone asks a question, answer the person politely. Talk to him in a kind way with your sweet smile, but not so sweet that he might think you have a feeling or crush to him. (Let's just use "him" as someone.) Just be simple and talk confidently. Ignore your goosebumps if you get nervous that you might approach back to him falsely. Answer him the simplest answer though. Or if the situation is vice versa, then just do the same and never forget to show gratitude if he's done answering you.
Practice this often at school. Don't pretend to act someone that you are not. Like if you think that the person who has beautiful and expensive accessories are more respected and noticed than to those who are simple, then you are completely wrong. Remember that you should show the person the reality of you so he won't expect more to you and if you befriended him already, show who you really are and improve some personality of yours that would amaze him and appreciates you more, like singing him the song he likes (as if it is unintentional), if he doesn't know that you're good in singing.
Let's say that you already met a friend, still a casual yet. Talk to him less and listen to him more. Show to him that you are happy listening to him. Give reactions and comments that would not always contradict to his interests. Disagree with him if you really disagree to his statements. Through this, the two of you will have more ideas to argue and share. Just be careful that contradicting to him to please you is not always healthy. Notice your conversation that if it's about to end, and you don't like to end it yet, ask him if he still has other concerns to do and if none, then that's the time for you to comment something that would keep your conversation stay long for a while. Ask questions if you have nothing to comment. Make jokes. A serious conversation is boring, right? So, initiate a joke if you have one related to the topic.
Be sincere to him always. Whatever secrets he shares, keep it. Don't tell your other friends, unless if he does not signal you that it's a secret and really controversial. Though you are not close with him yet, but he already tells you a secret, it means that he is either testing you of how good you are as a friend, or he is trusting you because his instinct tells him that you are trustworthy, or maybe both. Now, this is the start for a good friendship.
Be blooming. Be smiling. Be kind. And be who you are. These are the simple ways to gain friends. I do these and are very effective. I am like this, anyway, because I had started these techniques since I was a child. I believe that once you started something, and it happens again and again, because it helps you a lot, then it will become your attitude. So, start it now. Just try it, will you?
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